By Jacque Visagie · Midlife & Life Direction

You look at the week ahead and know exactly what everyone needs from you.

The work that needs finishing. The people you need to get back to. The responsibilities that will still be there on Monday morning.

But ask yourself what you want the next part of your life to look like, and the answer is less clear.

Perhaps something has changed: a relationship, your work, your role as a father. Perhaps your circumstances look much the same, but the future you used to work towards no longer feels like something you want.

Then comes the thought: “I'm 40. Surely I should have figured this out by now.”

If you're feeling lost at 40, I'd start by choosing one part of your life that needs attention. Name the uncertainty, look at what you actually know and take a step that helps you understand your options.

You can begin before you know where all of this will lead.

What do you mean when you say you feel lost?

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